#1 Reason Why You Didn’t Get Her Number

I have come to the conclusion that there needs to be a college course required for all males (and honestly females too) on dating and relationship etiquette, specifically on how to appropriately approach a female if they want any hope of any future conversations or interactions.

And Tip #1 is introduce yourself.

I felt compelled to write this post because twice in the past 3 weeks I have been asked for my number by two different boys (I say boys because a man would not do this) and both of them did not introduce themselves or ask my name- what is that about?!

This is how I was approached

Boy: “Hey so, I was just wondering, can I have your number?

Me: “Umm, you wanna tell me your name?”

 

I’m sorry, but why the heck would I give you my number if you didn’t even ask my name or tell me yours? Like what are you going to put me in your phone as? Hot Girl From Gym?

Come on now.

With the second guy I spent a little time talking to him about what he should do next tip.

 

Steps to Asking a Female for Her Number

1.Introduce yourself

Hey, my name is Joe, what’s your name?

2.Have a little conversation before going in for the kill.

And I mean more than “You’re hot.” Actually ask things like ”What are you studying… oh ya I took a class like that last semester, who is your professor?”

3.Then if the female doesn’t look freaked out or very uncomfortable, you may ask her for her number.

“So, it was really nice talking to you [insert female’s name], I was wondering if I could get your number?”

Boom, easy.

 

Now, I understand it is hard for guys. I can imagine it must be nerve racking approaching a woman you find attractive. The threat of rejection is definetly there, but if you take the time to actually talk to the girl, I can promise you your odds of getting those digits will go up by at least 80%.

Disclaimer, I am not single and am in a very loving and committed relationship with an amazing man. So, these boys that approached me had no chance from the get go, but the message here for my girls is: do not settle for anything less than a gentleman.

 

 

Linking up with Amanda for Thinking Out Loud this week. 

The Skinny Rules… Are you Freaking Kidding Me?

I hesitated in writing this post. I came across Bob Harper’s Skinny Rules on Pinterest, and thought, surley no one could actually believe that these are rules they should be following?

 

But then I thought, when I was 13 years old I would have took these rules for law. These rules would have been my bible, and I would have followed every one to a T. That being said, when I was deep in my eating disorder I did follow these insane rules and MORE. And you know what happened? I lost weight I did not even have to lose. My hair started falling out, I had no energy, my butt and back bones were so exposed that I got bruises from sitting… The list goes on.

Today I wanted to destroy some of these “rules.” I want someone to read this post and know that these rules are NOT okay. They are incredibly unhealthy and should be banned from the internet.

Some of the Most F***ed Up “Rules” On the Internet

Drink a large glass of water before every meal- no exceptions.

Okay water is good, water is essential, I drink at least a galloon a day myself. But before every meal? No exceptions? Umm no, drink when you are thirsty and your body will tell you how much you need to stay hydrated.

Don’t drink your calories

Ever heard of a glass of milk full of calcium and vitamin D? Or a protein shake post workout to give your body the energy it needs to recover? Or a fun latte at Starbucks with a friend? Ya, all those things are incredibly healthy in their own way.

Eat Protein at EVERY Meal -or stay hungry & grouchy!

protein

While protein does help keep you satiated, and I do agree you should have protein at every meal, there shouldn’t be this much pressure.

Slash Your Intake of Refined Flours & Grains

I eat white rice almost every single day. It is a fast digesting carb to refuel your body. And everything in moderation folks!

Eat 30-50 grams of FIBER per day!

The recommendation is  28-30 grams a day. And 50 grams? Prepare to be very bloated and constipated.

Eat Apples & Berries Every single day- Yes, EVERY-SINGLE-DAY!

There are plenty of other delicious fruits out there. How about a banana or some melon? Maybe I don’t want berries every freaking day.

NO Carbs after Lunch

needs carbs

Just NO. Carbs are the body’s primary source of energy. Unless you want to be a tired, hangry biatch… don’t do this.

Stop Guessing about Portion Size & Get it Right-for good!

This-screw you serving size

No more added sweeteners-including artificial ones!

I agree we should avoid too much artificial sugar, but eliminating anything completely can lead to an unhealthy attitude toward food.

Get rid of White potatoes!

potato

Why? They are just as good for you as any other potato.

Get rid of Fast foods & fried foods

Eating these things once in a while won’t kill you.

Banish High Salt Foods

You need sodium to live. Too little electrolytes will send your body into shock. Don’t poor the whole salt shaker on your food, but don’t be afraid of poor old salt.

Go to bed hungry

LMAO, I average about 500 calories right before bed every night, and I am doing just fine. Personally I would be up all night with hunger pains if I didn’t eat right before bed. Your body is not a clock, so freaking eat when you’re hungry!

Plan one splurge MEAL per week

I do not believe in “cheat” meals or “splurges.” Food is food, using these words to describe it make food seem like it is either good or bad. Food just is, that cookie won’t kill you, and the carrot stick won’t make you a Saint.

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I would love to hear your thoughts on these “rules” and other insane nutrition and health myths!

Note: I am not a registered dietitian. This is what I do know about proper nutrition and this post reflects my opinions on health and wellness.

A Killer Glutes and Hamstrings Workout

Now that we got the jams, here is a killer workout to pair them with. I did this workout on Tuesday this week, and I was feeling the burn the next day. I linked a video to each exercise. Focus on slow, controlled movements for each form. Weight should be light enough to perform the correct number of reps, but heavy enough so it feels like work!

Glutes and Hamstrings

Reverse pull through 4x 12

I am still working on my form for this one. Keep you back flat, and you will should feel this in your hamstrings. Make sure to squeeze the glutes when you pull through.

Kick back (using cable) 4x 15 each leg

Alternatively, use a band like these. Also, watch gym traffic to avoid kicking people 😉

Reverse Hack Squat 4×12

Single leg press 4x 12 each leg
I didn’t use any weight on the machine, just focused on driving through my heals

Barbell Step ups 4x 10 each leg

Romanian deadlifts 4x 20
Take your time and read up on proper form. If you aren’t sure, ask a trainer or someone you trust for helps. It is easy to hurt yourself during big compound lifts like this if you aren’t using the right form. Use dumbbells or a barbell.

Single leg curl 4x 10 each leg

Go slow and controlled. Keep your hips pressed against the pad. Here is a tutorial for a seated machine.

Lying leg curl 4x 12

Hips pressed against the pad, dorsiflex your feet.

Feel the Fear… And Do It Anyway

This is the mindset that brought about my recovery.

From November of 2010 until August of 2016 I was afraid. Change was needed, but my fear overwhelming.

I feared losing control, gaining weight, feeling uncomfortable. I didn’t know who I would be, or how I could cope without an eating disorder. It unnerved me to even ponder letting go of my food rigidity and exercise addiction. I was afraid to trust my dietitian, treatment team and ultimately: My own body.

My eating disorder was a coping mechanism for 6 long years. Even when I seemed to be doing okay (i.e. not in a hospital or treatment center of some type), I was still very much in the grips of anorexia. It kept me “safe” and I felt in control. That is, until it didn’t.

Finally, I reached a point in my life where I knew I would lose everything if I stayed in my disease. It was the Summer of 2016, I was wasting away to skin and bone. I could just envision what would happen if I did not change:  I would lose the ability to go to college, my boyfriend who I love dearly would probably move on, I would be sent to a treatment facility against my will… and the crushing reality- I could die.

Fear and Faith

Fear stems from a lack of faith. Whether you believe in God, the powers of the universe or nothing, fear arises when you face uncertainty and are scared to move forward into the unclear future.

Faith is the opposite of fear. Faith is trusting in advanced what will only make sense in reverse. And that is what I did.  I set aside my fear, and trusted the process.

That first step will be intimidating. This is where “feeling the fear and doing it anyway” comes into play. You put your head down, dig deep, and listen to that whisper inside you that says, “I can do this.”

Afterwords, I can tell you from experience that it will feel like the weight of the world is lifted off your chest. You will have a lightness about you because finally, after years and years of being alone, you finally have put your trust into something outside of yourself. For me it was God and my dietitian. I knew neither of them would fail me. Deep down my fear of staying in my eating disorder was greater than letting it go.

I wish I could make anyone struggling in life let go of their fear and trust the process. But I cannot. The reality is you must choose to change on your own. My hope for anyone reading this is that it does not take you 6 years. I pray that you may find your mustard seed of faith, and let it grow. I promise, the other side of fear is a beautiful place to be.